" TRY" for the next 365 days!

So this is 2010!

I have decided that since every new year begins with a new years resolution, i shall use this year to discontue this tradition. Instead of resolutions and promises that are easily forgotten or broken with in the first 3 months of stating one, i am implementing the new years TRY list.
you see if you start to add things to your TRY list you actually have given great effort and an attempt has been made on what you are "trying" to try.
Have i confused you?

Its really quite simple. here is an example...
i will try...
1. to listen to others more.
2. to helps others.

now 1. if you just listened to what i was saying you have already accomplished your trying task. you simply gave the effort wether it was perfect in nature or just a half hearted attempt you still actually tried!
now 2. If you told someone the time, or gave directions, or opened a door, or even helped someone cross the street you accomplished your try task 2.

See I think if everyone thought more like this things would quite simply get accomplished. everyone would be happier. Trying something is just that ...trying.

My new years Trying list is as follows:
Try to:
1. Love more
2. help others
3. help myself
4. believe in myself
5. believe in others
6. lose 15 pounds
7. thank God more
8. talk less
9. smile more
10. give to others
11. share my thoughts and feelings
12. spend more quality time with my daughter and hubby.

this list could go on and on but you knw what? I will have done every single one of them by years end. I will bet any single one of you out there that i can do this. Prove me otherwise or better yet prove yourself by tryin to prove me wrong! lol

A Christmas Smile

Well I was thinking today that we needed to go shopping for christmas. I wanted a gift for our daughter to open and get a smile out of her or even a "wow".
But than I really really looked at Sophia and than she said " turnaround"`. Most of you are probably thinking "so why would this make you think?" well this is why. Since Sophia doesnt speak much due to her spina bifida and cebral palsy, that one word only "turnaround" is extremely hard to phonetically speak. and it came from my daughter!
So as she said this word i did as she asked.
To which she than said " Ha , do it again". Just like that she said a command and than asks me to do it again!

This just made me smile. Thats when I realized, it wasnt going to matter what Santa put under the Christmas Tree this year for her or for me. Because simple words and gestures like a smile are things that can't be wrapped up in a box only to be taken out once in a while. I wanted to hear her speak more and see and feel her smile.
I cant help but feel like I am in heaven already when I am surrounded my her. Her heart, mind, body, and soul are so open. Ready to embrace what we have to give her.

There is no gift that can show her how much she is loved and how very special she is. But i do know that this Christmas is already a miracle because she is still here!

I have decided, since of course money is tight, that we shall put one gift under the tree for her to open. But what i will have this Christmas is a smile from our daughter that I will always be hopefully able to see.


I want everyone to remember its not how many gifts you receive or give but how you make someone smile and feel.
So please Smile at each other for you never know how much one positive expression can make someone feel. For what that feeling is felt is as simple as loving warmth!

Give them the gift of a christmas smile.

Just trying to live

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"So this is my first Blog! So much to share.....

I am trying to create this to share with people the ways to survive, cry, heal, teach, share, and love their child with special need. Our daughter, Sophia, was born with Spina Bifida, Hydrocephalus and Chiari Malformation just to name a few. She is 4 and a half now.

Everyday with Sophia is a wonderfully new and exciting one! I think this was the greatest gift God could have ever given my husband and me..seriously! We have been married for almost 6 years now and in those 6 years we have faced more heartache, setbacks, loss, grief, and found more love and belief in each other, than most people will encounter in their one lifetime!

I am so lucky to have him in our live.

Now back to what i wanted to discuss today!

Today is a somewhat overly cloudy day today. Most people or children who have hydrocephalus have what are called "shunt headaches". I am noticing more and more with Sophia that whenever a front comes in she starts to get really whiny and fussy. and since Sophia cant always communicate verabally we have to guess what hurts or ails her. Sophia can speak some words. Most importantly she speaks! we never take the word "momma, daddy, love u" ever for granted! those are the best words i could ever heard in my life and probably will ever hear!
anyways, thru out the night last night Sophia was up and down. Whining and crying in her sleep. All we could do was to put our hand on her forehead and stroke it till she calmed down. Waking her up during one of those episodes would scare her into a seizure. So its a touchy situation.
You do the best you can as a parent, I hope, knowing any decision will always have some impact on your child! It is hard to be a parent regardless if you have one child or 18, or wether you have a special needs child or a healthy child.

So sophia has been awake since 3am! Yep! 3 am! it is now 11am and she is up in her scoliosis brace and wheelchair, getting her daily breathing treatments, watching the wonderpets! and guess what she is Happy! As long as I can always see a smile on my child's face I am grateful.

so i will end this post with a thought and the motto that i always live with...

Life does not end with a diagnosis, it simply just begins
Also have you hugged your child/children today and told them how much you love them? Do it now cause life is so busy sometimes that you forget what you have. and what you have is each other and with that is love!"

All you need is Love
Becky